Why?
Curiosity Over Judgements
Too often, people are met with harsh judgements for their actions. This cycle of misunderstanding the motivation behind one’s actions can lead to the feeling of always being misunderstood. While yes, you can take responsibility for not refining your output in a way that it is easily communicated, the fault is not yours alone. When we meet actions with curiosity instead of judgment, often we are pleasantly surprised with what we find.
I was reminded of this in the story ‘Ender’s Game’. Ender, or Andrew Wiggin, is confronted by bullies. He proceeds to beat their leader, and kick him while he’s down. His motivations behind this are hidden to everyone except Ender himself and the reader. People perceive his actions as ruthless and brutal.
Ender is later questioned about the motivations of his actions and he says “Knocking him down won the first fight. I wanted to win all the next ones too. So they’d leave me alone.” Ender’s brutality was strategic, his motivations differed from his actions in this sense. If he had not dealt a heavy blow, he would have ended up ganged up on and hurt.
Drawing this back to our lives and how this applies, let’s say you have a child and they do something bad. Instead of getting mad about them doing something bad, ask them why. Ask them to explain why they took that course of action, and more often than not you will find that it wasn’t purely because they knew it was bad.
Applying this to yourself, if you do something you’re not proud of, get curious. Ask yourself why you took those actions, and find out the motivations underlying what happened, and you may just find that you learn some things about yourself.
Kahlil Gibran On Love:
“Let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.
Love one another but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other’s cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf.
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.
Give your hearts, but not into each other’s keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together, yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other’s shadow.”
-Kahlil Gibran
My Week Synopsis
I had a good week. I am back and creating content again for my incredible following.
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